fightmeforanapple said: I just came across this blog and I just want to say thank you so much for your posts about HOCD. It's been playing up again and learning more about it is so reassuring because sometimes I'm terrified that I'm just wrong as a person and so to see such a relatable post with tweakable advice really undid a lot of the damage I've done by blaming myself. I wish you all the best managing your own ocd.

Thank you! <3

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secretsofthedisabled said: You've got competition! XP From fuckyeahOCDotter.

You’re ace

citylifeinstills said: my ocd is especially terorrizing me lately. i love your website because i can find humor and i feel like im not alone. thank you what do you find helpful when your ocd takes over? im having trouble getting ideas of what to do

Hi there sweetie. Thank you, it means a lot to know that I can help someone out <3

I’m no good example; I struggle a lot myself, with no easy solutions in sight, I want to get that out there first. The blog is a way of pinning down a bit of the chaos of having a disorder no one really knows anything about :)

But in terms of ways to deal with it, I find it useful to remind myself that OCD isn’t everything I am, it’s only a part of my makeup but it doesn’t define me in any ethical way. Remind yourself of good things you’ve done, and think of all the times when you’ve disobeyed OCD and nothing bad has happened.

I also find refocusing really helpful, basically, distract yourself. Your brain doesn’t have the energy for everything and if you focus on something more important than OCD, and keep on going at it, the brain will lay down new neural pathways and OCD will shift to the back of your mind.

If you’re a student or have some good useful work that can focus your mind, committing yourself to that and concentrating on it can do you a lot of good. From my experience volunteering can be brilliant, it helps people, makes you a better person and helps you build up trustful relationships and confidence in yourself.

I read some advice by (goddess) Kimya Dawson where she talked about how when you’re having a hard time, team sports or joining a music group helps a lot with feelings of isolation and uselessness.

And of course, creative work is amazing therapy if that’s more in your line. So yeah, finding something worthwhile or fun to do and committing to it can help a lot :)

also, maybe because I’m a marginal-ish weirdo with a tendency to get down about myself and the world, I get amused at everything. and that helps a lot! I find it very helpful to laugh at very silly stuff like cartoons, the simpsons, the marx brothers movies, the tv show miranda, and the muppets. So yeah, always remember the silly stuff.

Much love to you xxxx

sterlingdove said: Thank you so much for this blog <3

You are most welcome. <3

curious-or-arrogant said: Having a sense of humor about diagnosed ocd is a great thing. :-D

Thank you! I hope humour can save us all. :D

we-all-fall-down-sometimes-deac said: Hey, would you mind telling your followers that I just started this blog yesteday as a way of offering support to people suffering from mental illness? Thank you so much <3 xoo

Hey guys, ^this is a fantastic mental health blog. Go look at it, go support it. We ALWAYS need more open-minded, supportive blogs like this!

PS I’m taking a break from making memes but will be back soon!

secretsofthedisabled said: (tw: emotional abuse, ableism) Ah, so then that would explain some things. I thought it was my low self-esteem due to the emotional abuse and ableism that caused me to think, "don't talk about that! Don't bother them! That issue is bad to discuss!" Thank you. This makes a lot more sense. (Sorry for the delayed response.)


secretsofthedisabled said: The inability to talk about your problems can be a symptom of OCD? Can you define what the context of this is? Like, why can't you talk about your problems?

Hi secretsofthedisabled, thanks for the question. I’m going to include a lot of general information about OCD in this answer, so I’ve bolded the part which relates to your question :)

Well, I make all the memes from experiences I had, and that one was about a particular experience that I had, along with other OCD sufferers I have read about or spoken to.

OCD is characterised by repetitive, intrusive thoughts, which are usually very distressing and inappropriate, and out of character for the person suffering from them (ego-dystonic - the person will know that the thoughts are wrong, but have no control over them). The thoughts are often ‘themed’ on socially taboo topics — for example, inappropriate thoughts about sex are VERY common. Simply, OCD is a faulty distress response in the brain, — imagine a false alarm triggering in the brain, setting off a string of disturbing, intrusive, ego-dystonic thoughts and mental images, and that describes what an OCD attack can be like. The thoughts have no meaning in themselves, and no OCD sufferer has ever been known to turn an intrusive thought or urge into action: for example, an OCD sufferer may obsess that they will hurt someone, but they will never do so.

People with OCD know exactly how irrational their thoughts are; in many cases they are the kindest and most compassionate of people, who often suffer great distress as a result of their thoughts. The thoughts will continue to have a negative impact if the sufferer dwells (ruminates) on them.

OCD is often associated with compulsive behaviours such as frequent handwashing, which are carried out to ward the thoughts away. But some OCD sufferers have no outward compulsions, and instead suffer the repetitive thoughts, as well as coming to compulsively rely on coping methods and rituals, such as counting or daydreaming.

Basically, it’s difficult for some OCD sufferers to talk, because OCD obsessions can concern topics that are difficult to discuss with close relatives and friends. These can include believing that a partner has been unfaithful to you, or that you may be unfaithful to them; or that you may hurt someone close to you, say something inappropriate or even hurt them physically. OCD thoughts can also concern well-known social taboos, like incest for example. The OCD sufferer will become very anxious, feeling that these are the worst acts anyone can do. The culture of tabloids, sensationalism and insensitively judging others’ sexual behaviour can feed into OCD, informing the brain’s subconscious judgement of what is good and bad, what it should be afraid of — which will then affect the OCD thoughts. As an example:¬†

Articles like this sensationalise taboo behaviour and make it OTHER — rather than exploring it sensitively and making it a part of human experience. That makes OCD sufferers feel even more isolated, unable to talk.

But there is always hope. My own OCD-based fear of taboos started to slip away when I attended a philosophy class in college. We sometimes discussed taboos like incest, or otherwise bizarre sexual behaviour, in class — and we always discussed in a sensitive and impartial way. Reading or learning about taboo behaviour, people’s motivations for it, their emotions and the history of such behaviour, can be a way of defusing the OCD thoughts. OCD thoughts are NOT rational. They are all about triggering the anxiety response. Once you can look impartially at something, you can stop being afraid of it.

But it’s still hard to talk about these problems, because society has made it extremely difficult to discuss them impartially and be open about them. The meme obviously wasn’t confirming that as a good thing, it was pointing out that sometimes it can be VERY hard for a sufferer to talk, even someone as impartial as a therapist.

On the plus side, understanding of OCD is growing in the world of psychology, and there are a lot of excellent therapists who take an impartial view of OCD and will help you recover. There are also sites like OCDfree on tumblr, and, where it’s possibly to talk to other sufferers and get help.

I hope that answered your question. :)